Carcinosin: The Hidden Cost of Being the Good Girl

There’s a certain type of woman I often meet in my practice. She looks like she’s got it all together. Calm. Capable. Always doing the right thing. Always there for everyone else. She’s the one we all rely on.

But inside? She’s running on empty.

When I hear her story, I notice how she’s learned to sacrifice herself, putting everyone else first, often at the cost of who she really is.

Over the years, she’s stretched herself to meet impossible standards, striving for perfection, pushing far beyond her natural limits.

And she’s done it quietly, with no complaint, because that’s what she learned would keep her safe, loved, and in control.

How she got here

When she tells me her story, I can see patterns emerge.

Maybe a parent was sick, or someone needed her to be the “easy one.”

Maybe she was overprotected in ways that stifled her growth, or faced demands that asked too much too soon.

Sometimes there’s emotional neglect, abuse, or responsibility placed on her far too early.

Often , it’s not just her story. It’s an ancestral pattern, a legacy of women putting their own needs last to keep the peace.

As I listen, I can hear how she adapted and learned to survive. And I feel  how deeply she has carried this weight.

The good girl

Early on growing up, she discovered that being perfect kept her safe.

She became who others needed her to be - the peacekeeper, the quiet one.

Not too loud, not too needy. She hid her feelings, stayed helpful, remained invisible. Always one step ahead, making sure everyone else was okay.

When I notice this, I also notice the cost: the parts of herself she tucked away, the joy and spontaneity she didn’t get to fully experience.

She learned to adapt and suppress. And somewhere along the way, she disappeared. She became competent, kind and deeply responsible - but at the cost of her own self.

Love felt conditional – only given if she was a certain way.

Either way, she didn’t get space to be messy or real. She never had the chance to just be a kid.

The woman who's always "fine"

On the outside, she looks strong, capable and compassionate. She’s the one who holds it altogether. She cares deeply but she never let’s herself fall apart.

She forgives others easily but is harsh on herself. She’s caring, reliable, and competent. But underneath, she’s exhausted.

I see it in her eyes, her pauses, the quiet sighs between sentences.

She rarely rests, rarely says no, rarely puts herself first.

She looks “fine” on the outside but inside, its chaos. Years of suppressing her feelings, exhaustion, and anger and her body and mind struggle with symptoms such as chronic fatigue, insomnia, burnout, constant anxiety, a restless mind, tics, allergies, guilt, and a persistent sense that something is missing.

Carcinosin* often overlaps with the remedyFolliculinum and there can also be health issues such as:

• Irregular or painful periods
• PCOS or early menopause
• Chronic yeast infections or UTIs
• Fibrocystic breasts
• Autoimmune issues

The moment of realisation

In our first conversation, she’ll often tell me,“I don’t know who I am.”  She's forgotten who she really is and she feels lost.

But what’s beautiful to witness is that spark of wanting to find her way back and reconnect with who she truly is.

Healing begins when…

This is where the remedy Carcinosin, prescribed according to her needs, can support her journey back to self.

She begins to feel safe enough not to be perfect.

She allows herself to rest, feel, and simply exist without earning it.

She starts saying no, knowing she matters.

In our work together, she gently shifts from over-functioning to self-expression. The remedy gives space to exhale, to soften and to reconnect with herself.

I walk alongside her in this process and it’s a beautiful unfolding to see her reclaim small pieces of herself and shift from merely surviving to truly living and enjoying life.

What the soul has been waiting for

The soul’s deepest need is self-expression.

For the sensitive woman who’s spent her life performing, sacrificing her needs to keep the peace, true healing comes from reconnecting with herself - setting boundaries, saying no, and living her own life with joy not duty.

In my work, I listen carefully, without judgment. I notice what’s unspoken, read between the lines, and understand what’s at the core of her challenges.

Choosing remedies specific to her needs, allows us to address what truly needs to be healed, not just the surface symptoms.

A different kind of healing

Homeopathy doesn’t fix you.

Each remedy gently nudges the body and mind to release what’s been stuck - long-held stress, suppressed emotions, or patterns that keep you over-functioning.

It helps you reconnect with your natural balance, so you can feel more like yourself again - maybe for the first time in years.
 

This is just a glimpse of what the remedy can do. The full benefit comes from working together to find a remedy tailored to you.

If this feels like your story and you’re ready to reconnect with yourself, book a complimentary call and let’s explore how homeopathy can help you feel like you again - whole, balanced, and truly seen.

*The contents of this post are for informational and educational purposes only, not as medical advice. 

Remedies like Carcinosin  are prescribed on an individualised basis, and while I’ve highlighted its potential benefits, many remedy options are available.

Please note, only a small picture of the remedy is included here and for effective results, it is best to work with a homeopath to find a remedy specific to your needs.